The dreams of having a career can sometimes supersede romance and chivalry. The young heart is too commonly torn between two places - A place of enjoyable financial stability and a place of profound satisfaction with someone who is head over heels, in love with you.
Let’s face it, education for most youths today comprise around one third of our expected life span. Are we truly ready to give up hard work and dedication for love? Most women today are career driven and independent to the point where most of them see men as just fun toys. As education expands to the wider female population, no young woman in her right mind would like to see her degree go to waste. The whole concept of a housewife has almost disappeared. A double income family is going to be the norm and a single income household would just be plain weird. For the strapping young lads, who actually have ounces of chivalry running through your veins, try telling your wife with two degrees and her masters to “stay home and take care of the kids”. While I would admit that there are some women who would warm up to the idea, those who were committed to their dreams and aspirations as a child, would not be seen baking pies and putting them out on the window sill to cool. Such is the image of the American housewife, not the modern vision of the corporate woman.
At the university that I attend, I never heard any male express their interest in being a stay-at-home dad. Just like all the females at the university, we work very hard to attain our degrees. It is surprising though that the female population out numbers us 2 to 1 (but when it comes to the quick ‘UWI’ relationship, the girls tend to humble themselves, while the males sometimes walk away with options in hand).
It makes me wonder ‘with all these individuals so intent on making a name for themselves, what would become of our children (if we even get to the stage of having any)? Like they say, women who have the capacity to go out and work, tend to see children as hampering their ultimate success. Even if they do have children, the jobs that we are currently studying for, demand so much attention. Children do not really fit into the equation.
I have been watching a lot of romantic comedies lately. As pathetic as they all are, with their cliché plots and mediocre acting, I still see something in what is being created by these directors and screenwriters. We probably do need to ingest love and chivalry back into our diets. Youths today have tonnes of obligations on our hands, whether it be too much volunteer work, or an over laden timetable of classes. We simply do not have the time to lay down a picnic cloth in the botanical gardens and prepare a romantic lunch for our significant others. We prefer to be caught up in what would make us the dollars in the future. As much as I would like to say that chivalry is alive…it’s dying a slow and painful death. If not now, it seems quite possible for the future. For those of us who do have a significant other in our lives, let us stop for a second, put down the phone, log off facebook and turn off the television. Pull out a pen, actually write a letter on a piece of paper, and tell her how you feel. Mail it, get it delivered and bask in the forms of a true Casanova.
Senior Press Pass Correspondent
University of the West Indies