Mother-daughter relationships during wedding planning is not always an easy road. Most moms, by nature, want to share their opinions on everything, not to mention discuss their past experiences about the weddings they’ve attended—who did what, who wore what, why you must do this and so on. This, of course, can clash with modern brides who, by and large, are highly opinionated themselves. Nevertheless, on the positive side, this can make for a healthy exchange of ideas.
So ladies, even if you think your mom is turning into “Momzilla” and insisting she gets her way with the wedding planning, it’s probably only because she means well. Remember that mom goes through her own stress as well, such as trying to decide what is appropriate to wear, dealing with feelings that both she and dad are going to lose their “little girl or boy,” “cherry-picking” from family and friends in order to reduce the guest list for you and constantly entertaining guests at pre-wedding events.
Here are some ways you can honour your mom on your special day and on the days leading up to the wedding:
• Help her choose the wedding day outfit or go with her to fittings or on shopping trips for her shoes and accessories.
• Wear your own version of your mom’s wedding gown.
• Give your mom and your mother-in-law-to-be a token of your appreciation for helping you with wedding preparations. Some ideas are: a locket, a piece of jewelry that features both your birth stones, a personalised embroidered handkerchief, a piece of artwork, or it can be as simple as a hand-made card and her favourite flower in a bud vase.
• Dedicate a song or poem to your mom at the reception.
• Display a photo of your mom and dad at their own wedding as well as one of your in-laws from their wedding at the receiving table where your reception is being held. Guests will be delighted to see “vintage” photos.
• Take mom for a pre-wedding photo shoot with you so that you have a nice memento of you as a “single gal” with your mom
• Treat mom to a spa day as a special “thank you.”
To all the moms who tirelessly support their daughters who are about to be wed, we thank you for your lectures, your tears, your worry and your laughs, especially as we celebrate you today. Happy Mother’s Day!