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Depression: Let’s talk: Look who’s talking, too

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

For the past five years, I have experienced no greater joy than to have people who identify with a particular topic write a response about themselves or about their perception of me. This has been the enrichment that I have gained in the confidential exchanges where I take opportunity to counsel, share stories or to give direction for an intervention.

I am so moved when people open up and allow me into their lives, homes, relationships, ill-health, and struggles. I would that everyone understood what I do and, more so, appreciate it, but that day will come, too.

Today, I continue to celebrate some of the intimations to me being open about living with a mental illness—unashamed and undeterred.


You seem to have it totally together

Miss, how are you?

I must say it has been a while. I saw your article (Living with Clinical Depression, TG April 25, 2012) and it was really inspiring. I know you mentioned some stuff (about your mental health) to us in class but it was so hard to see the reality of what you spoke of when you stood before us. You always seemed to have it totally together. Nonetheless, it was truly enlightening.

I must say I often miss you because your classes meant so much to me. They were more that lectures; they were enlightening, full of drama (my favourite) and fun. You actually made me want to come to class every day.

I just thought I’d put my thoughts in writing and express to you how much I truly appreciated all that you have done for me in helping me to become a better person and a PR practitioner. Have a blessed day, Miss. God bless.

About my special family

Hello Caroline,

I read the article this morning (and felt so good to see my words in black and white so that I can show it to my family and friends, so at least they will see that they can make a positive outlook on an otherwise unpleasant situation; that they can show other people they can find love and it is worth holding on to this life.

I cannot thank you enough for giving me the space in your column to share my love for what is truly my greatest gift from God: my special family.


You are not alone

Dear Caroline:

I was glad to read your column on being home alone for the holidays (2014).

Over the years past, I have been very much alone (the last survivor of my immediate family) and gotten so comfortable with my solitude.

Is it possible that I’ve learned to like something unhealthy for me?

Sometimes it feels so comfortable being alone, it scares me to think about the later years if I’d be able to fend for myself.

Even when I get asked out to family outings (or even wakes, funerals etc) I feel like I have to psych up myself to go and many times I just end up staying home.

When I have to socialise in groups (family or otherwise) I begin to feel like a fish out of water, gasping for its aquarium to breathe again.

Also, I recently read up on ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) and based on a basic Q&A I answered, I firmly think I might have this condition.

I’d really like to get a proper doctor to assess if I have this condition and what medication is suitable for me, if I am diagnosed with the condition. Do you know of any doctor(s) I can rely on for a professional, accurate assessment of such a condition?



Continue sharing the love

Dearest Caroline,

Happy New Year (2013), I read your article on Old Year’s Day, and to steal a line directly from the article: “ I have goosebumps” with pride and joy.

The article was deep, sincere, and open, also intellectually stimulating.

Love personified is what you are doing. You see, you are doing it not for fame or glory, but for fulfilment of dreams you had for your birth place.

By your dedication, your demeanour and your sincerity, you are teaching not only the youths but the adults as well.

Remember, more things are caught than taught. Caroline my dear, I know it’s a tough battle.

Like an old broken record will reiterate, how proud I am of you.

Reading that article brought joy to my heart. You will feel despondent at times, you will hear the negatives, but remember nobody throws stones at a tree without fruits.

The more you do, the more the small minds will try to discourage you.

Remember God put you there for that purpose: to enhance the lives of those with whom you come into contact.

Love conquers everything. Continue to share your love.


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